As a psychologist, the most embarrassing moment was not, as the public thought, to want everyone to know our professional status.
This professional status has often brought many inconveniences and difficulties to life around us.
I remember when I first started in the psychology industry, I couldn’t wait to change my Internet name to “Psychiatry Counsellor XXX,” which meant nothing more than to make it easier for visitors to find us.
But every time you join a new group, or you add a pharmacy clerk, a supermarket owner, a new friend you know, you hear a very surprising exclaim: “Aah! So you’re a psychologist.”
It would be nice to hear one or two words of praise and surprise if it were just a small crowd. But if you want to join the class or unit of work of the child, there’s no endless trouble…
For example, in the case of parents, in less than a semester, the entire class would look at your children with envy: “Oh, I hear that parents XX are counsellors, and the boy must be first in his studies!”
Or sometimes, when a child has a little problem at school, other parents or teachers jump out, “Oh, my God, you’re a psychologist. How can your child make such a mistake?”
This question is acceptable, and most of all, when a child has a little problem, and we’re in a hurry, and when we show emotional instability, someone comes out and says, “Oh, my God, you’re a psychologist, how can you be unstable? How can you collapse and be anxious?”
“Red Shirts”
Yeah.
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God, I’m just a psychologist. I’m not a man who’s been held in love. I have a special profession. I’m not dead. Can’t you be unstable?
The biggest misunderstanding among the world’s counsellors is that they are the masters of all emotions and hearts, the masters of all things, and that they are gods and not men.
Every time such assessments are heard, there is always a desire to cry and not to cry.
More importantly, there is no way to explain it, and it also gives the other side a feeling that the original level of a psychologist is no more than that.
Perhaps, from the perspective of the outside world, a psychologist has always been seen as the existence of a particular mysterious human being. In their view, people like us who are professionally psychologically qualified and psychologically trained must be different. We may not cry out loud, go crazy, let alone be depressed and anxious like ordinary people.
Actually, it’s like the layman thinks:
Doctors don’t catch colds!
Hairdresser must look good!
Emotion won’t divorce!
Mathematics teacher will fail!
In fact, this is a false impression of occupation by most people. Here’s a few of the three cold-sensei little things you don’t know about our industry:
i. Psychological counsellors are not only easy to eom, anxiety, depression, collapse, anger, but even 30 per cent of the population have been severely depressed;
It’s very simple that a psychologist is a human being, and since he’s a human being, or a fairy or a ghost, he’s in the same mood as a normal person, who can catch a cold and have serious illness. Even 30 per cent of the population have opted for the path of a psychologist after treating themselves for disproportionate depression.
Moreover, it is in a way that mental health is better known than ordinary people, and counsellors may be more likely than ordinary people to cry, talk less anxious and make themselves unstable. Because they know better than people who have not learned psychology, the very essence of a person ‘ s mental health is to express themselves and to excite themselves. Therefore, some counsellors may be more angry than the average person in the case of quarrels or anger.
II. Most of the children of the counsellors have poor performance
The general population believes that the children of a psychologist must be able to perform first through psychology, because they know better than ordinary people how to encourage, receive and understand the child ‘ s mind. However, reality may disappoint you.
Although there are many ways for counsellors to reach NO1 for their children, most counsellors eventually choose to follow suit. Because they understand better that learning achievement NO1 and mental health are two opposite directions. Most of the good results of NO1 require some mental health in return. Anything, too much, something happens. Thus, most of the children of the counsellors performed fairly well.
In addition to the more busy work of the counsellors, most of the working hours are weekends and evenings with consultations and appointments.
It’s like why 985 doctoral children are scum, it’s not genetic, it’s about who teaches them.
Three, 80% of the counsellors are poor.
They think that the counsellors must be very rich and very good. Of course, as a psychologist, we have had access to many rich and excellent visitors, but that does not mean that we are the same. Most counsellors may not have had a list of appointments after having had access to several excellent visitors. Finally, it becomes part-time or, in some cases, permanent unpaid. Overall, most counsellors are poor.
In conclusion, I would like to say that a psychologist is a job, a manual job, not so great, or so unique, that we are ordinary people, doing ordinary things.
And I want more friends to look at us from the point of view of reason, not to say that the biggest trauma of a psychologist is that you can’t even look at my psychological problems. It’s: You’re a counselor, you can’t be anxious.
Respect for the profession of counsellors, please start with respect for us, too.
Submitted by: Tsing Tsang, a psychologist
